Remaking Monday: Hygiene

The topic everyone needs but people do not often mention. What do you do if your junk has the funk?  First, everyone has there own smell. This is normal. there are still things to be aware of and pay attention to. The type of smell is very important. While working for a AIDS Services Organization I worked with people that gave sexual health presentations. Two of the slogans that came up were, "If it smells like cologne, leave it alone," and "If it smells like fish, it's a dish." First off.... Ew.

One of my colleagues at the time confessed that she did not like feeling unclean so she used scented products including lotions. For her this was a sign that she was taking care of herself. This got me thinking. Is the use of scented products a bad thing? Not really. It really depends on the kind of scented product and where it is used. If the scented product is coming from the genitals themselves this raises red flags for me. Many scented products are not designed for use there and can lead to irritation or infection. This could signify something being covered up or someone that does not know as much about hygiene as they think. Fragrance on the areas near, but not on, the genitals could just be that person's preference. Pay attention to if there is a smell under the fragrance to be safe. 

If there is an unpleasant odor, like fish,  this is a sign of trich. Trich is a parasitic infection that is treatable. 

Basic hygiene tip #1 - use gentle products on sensitive areas. Harsher chemicals can cause irritation and smells if you over do it.

Hygiene tip #2 - Pay attention. lack of information, or access to false information, are a true epidemic in society. if something makes you uncomfortable it is better to walk away. You don't owe anyone an explanation. 

Re-Making Mondays: Intimacy

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Let’s be honest. Very few people enjoy waking up and realizing it is Monday. For many the work week is starting over, the weekend was nowhere near long enough and we could all use a few more hours of sleep. Why not just do away with Mondays altogether and reorganize the week to have more time to spend with loved ones? Well, that would require people to redesign the Julian calendar as well as defy the laws of physics. While in theory realigning the planets and altering orbits and rotations seems like a great idea it would just be easier to make the best of what we have.

A method that may help restore some long lost luster to Monday is a supplement to the end of the week “date night”. Instead of going out and risking a saddening repeat of Friday’s follies; stay in and lose the need to speak. Some advice I have given to couples that feel the passion is fading from their relationship is to communicate without words.

Sound crazy? There is some logic behind it. A game that was discussed in my human sexuality class is called “Two Hands, One Voice”. It is not as sexual as it sounds. It is a massage based game. One person sits with their back to the wall while the other sits between the firsts legs facing away from them. Essentially, the two peoples legs should form a double V.

The first person has the two hands. This person can massage and caress the other person anywhere they choose. This person cannot say anything.

The second person is the voice. While they are not allowed to speak they can make noises to guide the other persons hands and signify what they are enjoying.

Something that might improve the couples enjoyment of this game is to use scented candles and massage oil. Luckily, you can get both in one easy to manage form. Massage oil candles are solid until they are lit. The flame warms the wax and turns it into heated massage oil.  After the candle is put out the oil will re-harden into wax. It also helps that they come in scents such as sugar cookie (I ordered this scent for my display kit and it is amazing).

Happy Monday!

Product Play: For Added Flavor

Let’s be honest. No one is peaches and sunshine all the time. Whether they have a sour attitude of a bitter taste romance can easily be squelched by these turn offs. The attitude cannot always be helped but flavored edible products can perk up the situation. It also helps that some of the products sold on the market can be multi-purpose.

Nipple Nibbler, while having an interesting name, is a gentle, edible stimulator. It is a thick gel that when applied gives a tingling sensation. This sensation increases blood flood to the area where it is used. Personally, I have found this product to be an effective substitute for chapstick. Nipple Nibbler also acts as a lip plumper.  It comes in a tub that will last for a significant amount of time.

For those that might feel awkward carrying a tub of Nipple Nibbler around there is Nipplicious which comes in a container that looks like standard chapstick. This makes for much more discrete use.

Both come in a variety of flavors to choose from.

The effectiveness of this product depends on the sensitivity of the user. I have never come across a “bad batch” but, there are people that require stronger products for the same result.

Bonus tip #1: This product can be used any place on the body that has sensitive nerves. The tingling can last for a good amount of time.

Bonus tip #2: Use either of these products before lipstick application to help retain moisture. These products can help your lips look fuller when used before lipstick application.

Scent of Foreplay

Well, the force may not be real but pheromones are and they are for sale. Pheromones are a natural part of the human body. While they are not consciously smelled by most their effect can be easily detected. Have you every entered into a period of time where you get a sudden increase in attention from the opposite, or same, sex? You can thank your biology for that.

Pheromone products are very intriguing as well. These products can come in many shapes, sizes and purposes. Some products are designed to go directly on the skin and mix with the oils of the individual while others are intended to act as a pheromone infused Fabreze.

There are few things people should know before buying pheromone products.

Read the label to see if it can go on skin. While pheromones themselves are not skin irritants the additional chemicals may be. You can also ask the salesperson if they know about the product.

Some scents change. There are some products on the market that will actually change scent as it mixes with a person’s skin oils.

Some scents are fixed. There are some fragrances that remain the same in pheromone products depending on the purpose. Body dews/mists  do not always adjust to individual body chemistries.

There are specific places on the body that are best for using pheromone products. These include; wrists, inner elbow, neck, temples and the crown of the head. Points where either the blood vessels are close to the surface of the skin or skin oils are often present.

For those days when a little boost would be a good thing pheromones can help turn some heads.