Last week I got caught up on early seasons of one of my favorite television series, Big Bang Theory, and came across an episode that got me thinking. In the Episode two characters were in the active stages of making out when the male character said something so stupid that it stopped the sexual experience before it could start.
For the audience it was hilarious but for the characters it was like taking a fire extinguisher to a candle flame. Has this happened to you? You are getting intimate with someone and they, or you, let something slip out that kills the mood. For many people the answer is a reluctant yes.
If the “mood” is killed that easily the sex is being taken too seriously. Say it with me – ridiculous. This is not some pointless spell from a Harry Potter movie. This is a suggestion for future plans. Sex is an activity like any other. Sometimes it is intense and other times it is laughable.
The best thing a person can do is laugh especially when the activities turn sexual. Both laughter and sex cause the release of endorphins, the body’s natural anti-depressants, which elevate enjoyment and pleasure. Together the two can double the endorphins in your brain.
If you are a klutz, like some of us, take the risk and be a klutz. Devise a cartoon-esque fantasy that you incorporate into foreplay. Re-enact scenes from movies or television shows and put your slant on them. Sex does not need to be serious all the time.
Learning to have fun and be able to laugh at the little things can improve the relationship. Leave the seriousness to the big business CEOs that partake in infantilism.
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